Oh my gosh! I am still freezing and 66% outside. I know that I am and will always be a true southerner, but this is just nuts. Yes, I am from Mobile: however, it seems that now I actually live in a colder climate than ever before. It’s no wonder I feel down deep inside like I moved up north and married a yankee. Yes, Birmingham for you might still be the south, but not for those of us born in the original capital of colonial French Louisiana in 1702 not so much. You see, it’s not really the south- at least not the deep south.
I hope you had a lovely holiday. For me, nothing happened as I had planned. In fact, I would have to say it was the worst Christmas season I have ever had (at least in my recent memory). As you can image, being a hotel and event planner that was not a fun place to be. Going with the flow is something I am working on, but not something I prefer. I like to go with the flow when it works within the framework I have allotted in my mind. Controlling perhaps? No, just trying to maintain my sanity if the midst of the chaos. It was as if I was screaming inside my head, can’t we just turn back the clock before cell phones took over our lives. Chaos with events, weather, television, news and politics have invaded our souls, while beauty, peace and joy are fading as a distance memory.
Inside my heart I was crying, can’t we just make some coco, sit by a fire, do some caroling for Christ sake. Yes, truly for Christ’s sake. No, we had to put down our 15 year old dog, our car broke down on the way to see my family and my husband was tied to the phone with work demands through our entire Christmas so-called break. We didn’t even get to make a Christmas service. This is something that is very important to me. We had planned to forgo gifts and take a trip somewhere this year. In leu of gifts, we were going to write a letter to each other and share them on Christmas day. Did that happen you ask? No. No it did not. Needless to say, this was the wake up call.
In fact, I told my husband that I never wanted to have another holiday like this one if we could help it. If our life is going to change, we are going to have to change it. It’s time to sit back and address what is truly important in our lives and in our marriage. We all know this in our head, but when you allow circumstances to take over your life, that’s when you are in trouble.
Often times a simple shift can change your situation. The challenge is the simple shift is not so simple. It takes courage to stand up for what you truly want in life, not what society says you should do. Yes, we must find the balance. What are you believing that is keeping you in prison? I have pulled the get out of jail free card in our life. Now that choice is ours. The choice is yours. Will you open the door or stay behind the prison walls? It’s up to you!